Monday, September 10, 2012

Sharing is NOT Always Caring

As I sit back, watching shows like Love & Hip Hop Atlanta and Cheaters, I wonder what some of our beautiful brothers and sisters are thinking.  It seems like now-a-days, no one is faithful.  When I look to my elders who have been married 40, 50, and even 60 years, I wonder if some of the relationships today could stand to be together for that many years.  I'm sure that our elders had to endure some of the same challenges that we have today....temptations, hoes (they've been around 4ever), financial stress, etc., but it seems like they had the strength to stand up and fight for their relationships.  Now every time you turn around, someone is getting married then divorced in the same year....somebody is getting married, headbutted, then filing for divorce....or some beautiful women is happy with her 25% of a guy while sharing him with 3 other heffas. Let me set something straight....I do not condone abuse on any level from anyone...but I do believe in looking at the situation from every angle and then making a move.  Let me touch on one aspect of relationships....having multiple ones. 

Who said that there's anything wrong with having more than one boyfriend/girlfriend?  If we step out of our zip code and look at the World, it is acceptable in some cultures to have multiple wives.  Even the Bible accounts in the Old Testament where men had more than one wife.  Me personally, I could not handle being wife number anything except one!!!  Now, for the nights when I don't feel like sex'n him up...yeah, another bitch would come in handy...LOL.....SERIOUSLY, If that kind of arrangement works for you....then so be it! Straight up, do you really expect your boyfriend or girlfriend to be 100% faithful to you?  I wouldn't put my faith in someone who I was just dating.....sorry that's just me!  I feel like when a man is ready to be committed to women, he'll take it to the next level.  Communication is key....a part of commitment is that communication is open, clear, and honest.  Like my Momma says, "Honesty is the best policy!" The reality of the situation is that some people can not handle the truth...

Some people are just freaks by nature....if you're a freak....say you're a freak!  Don't wait until you're married with 2 or 3 children to tell a bitch that you like people playing with your booty hole!!  UGGH!  Be honest and up front about it!  If I can deal with you're booty hole hunger games, then we're a match...if not, its a wrap.  I don't like when people withhold information in hopes of tricking someone to stay with them.  Some people like multiple partners in the bedroom, and if you both can deal with it...then get ya TROIS on!
So, if you're open, honest, and this type of lifestyle works for you...then great! 

In the past, I've played the cheater and the faithful one in relationships, and cheating is wrong...but do you know what's worst?  When one is aware that their boyfriend/girlfriend is cheating, allows it to happen, then plays the victim. No, you're sharing a mate because you'd rather have part of a person than none of them at all.  Wow!!!  What kind of voodoo does the person have on you that would cause you to neglect yourself? At this point, a conversation is needed in order to determine the future of the relationship.  Some people cannot face the music.  If you want to stay with the person, can you handle sharing them?  There are many successful open relationships out there, but you'll have to share a that caring about your own desires and wishes?  Or succumbing to lust?  Think about it.... 

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